Too Many Cooks in the Kitchen?

toomanycooks-150x150The speech/language therapist says he just needs intensive language therapy to help him process the world around him.

The neurologist says we just need to find the right medication for the ADHD and he’ll be fine.

The Occupational Therapist says its sensory and he needs a better sensory diet to help him feel calmer.  It is not ADHD, its sensory.

The optometrist says he needs vision therapy to help with visual tracking.  This doctor says that signs of visual tracking weakness are often misdiagnosed as ADHD.  It’s not ADHD, its vision.

The pediatrician says he’s perfectly healthy, if not a slight bit underweight.

The international adoption pediatrician says he has encephalopathy.

One family member says that he is autistic.

Another says he is just being a boy.

And another says he’ll grow out of it.

The stranger at the supermarket says he probably has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.

The neighbor says I’m the one who is being dramatic.

The school says nothing.

 

Feeling overwhelmed.  How does a mom know what to do?

Kim Clary Cafiero

Kim is a stay at home mom to two boys. She came to parenthood through adoption and was a teacher and school administrator before taking the plunge to stay home full time. She lives in New Jersey.

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About the author

Kim is a stay at home mom to two boys. She came to parenthood through adoption and was a teacher and school administrator before taking the plunge to stay home full time. She lives in New Jersey.
  • Full Spectrum Mama

    Kim,
    Your predicament is so profoundly familiar.
    As the parent of one biological child with autism and one who was adopted and has an attachment disorder, you may imagine…
    I have two suggestions:
    1. Find strength in community. You are NOT alone.
    2. Take the time to trust what YOU think. You probably can’t tell right now, but as you research, listen, observe, you will find that YOU are the one who knows your child best.
    Good luck!
    Your caring and questing is one thing you are doing SO right!!!
    Love,

  • Tsukismom

    You are describing my son! I know your struggle. My Ben is 9 now, and I have come to believe what the psychologist said after his first full neuropsych last year: it’s complicated. Brains are very complex, and pinning things down with one label, in Ben’s case, is impossible. We have had IEPs since pre-school. In the end, i chose medication, OT, tutoring and lots of excercize. Reading ‘Far From the Tree’ has helped. I have grieved my son’s differences, felt inadequate as a parent, struggled with really difficult choices and finally just love him, love him , love him. Except at homework time, lol. Take heart, it is a process, know other moms support you and have been there. You will find the right recipe. Peace.

  • Heidi Cruz

    This is exactly the way I feel something!

  • Michael G. Gingerich

    Your description is so familiar. I’m a retired mental health professional with 41 years experience, 20 specializing in ADHD; also an ADHD adult. I’ve had so many parents relay this same story I stopped counting! I’ve found, though, that many parents had done some research before coming to me and had a fairly good idea as to what their child’s problem was. A large percentage of the time they were right! It’s rather unfortunate that many healthcare clinicians are lousy listeners. They’re too quick to give advice and don’t listen or ask enough questions. It’s also rather unfortunate that many of the foremost ADHD websites advise parents to start by going to their family doctor, to a neurologist or to a psychiatrist. Problem is the vast majority of those groups know next to nothing about ADHD, autism, SPD or language disorders.

    I like your site!

    Take a look at my blog – http://addsolutionscenter.blogspot.com/

    Mike G.

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