Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire

I don’t know where to start in my book review of Stacey Turis’ Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire, An abseent-minded tale of life with Giftedness & Attention Deficit – Oh look! A chicken! There are just so many wonderful nuggets in this book… and a ton of laughs. Her life with ADHD is anything but dull.

I find reading stories about successful adults with ADHD reassuring. My son, Luke, who has ADHD, SPD, significant Executive Functioning deficits, Dysgraphia, Written Expression Disorder and a Gifted IQ, has been struggling ever since entering school five years ago. I feel relief every time I read about an adult with ADHD who struggled in school but found peace in adulthood. I also often get insight into what my son might be thinking or feeling as he struggles to cope with his differences.

Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire was full of connections for me. She writes, “oddly enough… there is always purpose in what I do; it’s just sometimes harder for others to see the same connections I do. To them, I don’t make sense, and I just don’t have the attention span to explain what they can’t see!”

So often we try to teach Luke different ways to approach things, our way, what makes sense to us — but now I see that his way makes sense to him, and that’s ok!

“I love that she said that to me [to be myself]. My whole life, people have been telling me not to be myself, and she was telling me my success was riding on being the person I actually was. It gave me an enormous, and much needed, amount of relief that I wouldn’t have to keep myself reigned in… we can’t change who our basic being is. We were made the way we were made for a reason. We don’t always know what the reason is… And, still today, I’m not entirely sure why I was given this brain. on bad days, I cry and cuss at this brain that gives me so much heartache, and as much as I want to hate it, and as I’m calling it vile names, and pounding on the bed to punish it, I can’t. I can’t hate it, because I love it so much, and that just makes me cry harder.” This is the internal turmoil our kids are living with as they try to grow and accept who they are, accept the differences that make them who they are.

She describes the intensity of her emotions, “I’m also sensitive in the conventional sense. The part of me that isn’t entirely numb can be easily moved to tears…Feeling so much is so exhausting, sometimes unbearable…”  Think about your own child’s meltdowns – do they stem from intensity of emotions? Luke’s sure do.

Besides the relief I feel from all the correlations I can make between Stacey and my son, this is just plain and simple a very entertaining autobiography. From relationship yo-yos to getting arrested in front of her kids {it’s a funny story, I promise}, this book is full of laughs. This is a raw, purely honest, unapologetic peek inside the ADHD brain. A brain that is chaotic, and driven, and creative, and wildly humorous. Buckle up for this wonderful ride!

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A self-described “veteran” parent of a son with ADHD, Penny Williams is the author of the Amazon best-seller about her parenthood in the trenches, Boy Without Instructions: Surviving the Learning Curve of Parenting a Child with ADHD. She is also the creator of the award-winning website, {a mom’s view of ADHD}, a frequent contributor on parenting a child with ADHD for ADDitude Magazine and other parenting and special needs publications, and co-founder of the annual Happy Mama Conference & Retreat, a weekend away for moms of kids with neurobehavioral disorders. Look for her second book, What to Expect When You’re Not Expecting ADHD, in late 2014. Follow Penny at http://BoyWithoutInstructions.com.

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COVER3D_400sq_bestsellAward-Winning Blogger. Freelance Writer. Author. Warrior Mom. A self-described “veteran” parent of a son with ADHD, Penny Williams is the author of the Amazon best-seller about her parenthood in the trenches, Boy Without Instructions: Surviving the Learning Curve of Parenting a Child with ADHD. She is also the creator of the award-winning website, {a mom's view of ADHD}, a frequent contributor on parenting a child with ADHD for ADDitude Magazine and other parenting and special needs publications, and co-founder of the annual Happy Mama Conference & Retreat, a weekend away for moms of kids with neurobehavioral disorders. Look for her second book, What to Expect When You’re Not Expecting ADHD, in late 2014. Follow Penny at http://BoyWithoutInstructions.com.

3 Comments

  1. uniquemom says:

    Thank you for this review – I can’t wait to order the book (for the getting arrested story alone it sounds worth it!).  I too have a 2E child and as I don’t have ADHD, it is difficult for me to “get” the way her brain works.  Thank you for passing this book along!

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    • adhdmomma says:

      You’re welcome. You will be glad you ordered the book. I had a lot of laughs and several ah-ha moments reading it. My son is also 2E. 

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  2. drummeyd says:

    This is so true.  Sometimes I hear myself talking to Dylan and I feel like I am trying to change him.  I want him to be HIM, but I also want him to be able to get along in school and in life.  Sometimes I feel incapable of sharing that with him.  I don’t know how!

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