I am a SAHM who seems to be very active and not home much. I have two wonderful kids who drive me crazy, yet are the joys of my life. I admit that my kids are spoiled. I will just about do anything for them. I’ve often said that I do have a part-time job… it’s keeping up with them and their schedules.
I don’t know that my story is all that unique. Both of our kids are adopted, but that doesn’t truly make our story unique. We knew from an early age that there was something “not quite right” about Kyra. She was VERY hyper and wasn’t talking. When she did talk, it was always VERY loud. I can’t count how many times I had her ears checked because we thought she couldn’t tell how loud she was. When she was seven years old, her psych told us that she thought Kyra was bi-polar. We have since had her re-evaluated and found that although she does have a mood disorder, she is not bi-polar. We seem to spend an awful amount of time between doctors, counselors, etc.
What are your ADHD child’s strengths/gifts/talents? Weaknesses? Obsessions?
She is participating in cheer and she takes piano. She has a tendancy to want to participate in something really badly and then will only go a few times and want to quit. These two things she has stuck with though. There are weeks that it is a HUGE fight to get her to go to either thing though.
PATIENCE!!!! I’ve tried really hard to not let her mood swings affect the way I handle her. She may be screaming at me at the top of her lungs and my first reaction is to scream back, but most times (NOT all the time) I can just look at her calmly and respond. (Realize this has taken me YEARS to master!)
Hang in there and read all you can. Find a support group so you can feel validated. One of the biggest challenges I had to face was feeling like her behaviors were because I was a bad mother. It took me YEARS to finally overcome that. I realize that she is who she is, and that it’s not because of my bad parenting.
I would try to educate people about ADHD. The media makes us believe that ADHD is all about hyperactivity. There are soooo many more layers to it than that. My daughter is a perfect example of many of those layers.
Right now she is on Focalin 2.5 mg (3x day) and guanfacine 1 mg (3x day) and this combination has worked well so far (keep your fingers crossed). The biggest side effect of the focalin is that she has a hard time falling asleep.
She attends public education and has an IEP for speech, math and reading.